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If you’ve been to one of my introductory workshops in the last year, you’ve probably heard me say that my identity, especially at work, has been defined by the phrase, “You don’t count.” As a white-assumed Hispanic cisgender woman with an invisible disability, I don’t hold enough power and privilege to participate in the dominant group fully; yet, I hold too much power to be considered part of the collective “non-dominant” group.

The phrase “you don’t count” actually comes from an intersectional exchange with an employee at an organization who, rightfully, believed he had been facing microaggressions and hidden discrimination…

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In my day-to-day work as a DEIB practitioner, I am routinely met with the “it’s not fair” problem.

Namely, groups advocating against one another within an organization because their path to success either was or is more arduous, their access to resources more difficult, or their opportunities are fewer and farther between. Noticing these disparities is essential to organizational change and the achievement of equity; focusing the discussions on what is and isn’t fair, though, can quickly turn unproductively divisive.

Perhaps the most hackneyed example of this phenomenon is the pop culture stereotype of a successful woman executive making her…

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I am obsessed with cults.

This is the part where you ask: Well, how obsessed are you, Alida?

I listened to two different podcasts about NXIVM while I watched both docuseries about it — The Vow on HBO and Seduced: Inside the NXIVM Cult on STARZ. I feverishly read every news story about the ongoing trials and sentencing of various high-profile leaders and members. During the peak of my NXIVM phase, I spent anywhere from three to four hours a day immersing myself in every detail of NXIVM’s organizational structure, membership, funding, and more obscure or occult beliefs.


CW: assault, gaslighting

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In the first three months of 2019, I was attacked three times.

The first time, I was mugged in a coffee shop. Two teenagers came up behind me, one restraining my arms and the other jamming and pulling my arm, wrenching free the phone in my hand. The barista chased them down the street and returned the phone to me.

The second time, I was walking home, and a man on the street started yelling at me. “Why are you looking at me? Why are you looking at me that way?” I hadn’t even seen him, and…

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275,000 women left the workforce in January of 2021, according to the Bureau of U.S Labor Statistics.

Since the pandemic started, women’s labor force participation has fallen to historically low levels, and women have accounted for 56 percent of workforce exits despite making up just 48 percent of the labor market.

Before the pandemic, reports estimated that women were responsible for twice as much unpaid care as their man-identified counterparts. The recent global health crisis has widened this gap, with some estimates suggesting that women have added three additional hours of caregiving to their days — or fifteen hours per…

Small Actions for Improved Morale

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When I was not but a wee teen, my favorite Johnny Cash song was “Cocaine Blues.” At the time, the lyrics and premise seemed edgy, which, as an absolute goodie-two-shoes, made me feel a little more “alternative.”

Still, apart from that, the idea that addiction could drive bad decisions that would impact the course of your life interested me. …

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I coach and teach a lot of woman-identified People of Color. When I do, I often observe that their successes are bigger, brighter, and more worthy of appreciation than they give themselves credit for, especially given the myriad way systems are stacked against them. Their success is valuable and worthy of celebration in itself, struggles or not. But, their success is also radical because it challenges an existing social structure while also reminding those who identify with them that they do, in fact, have agency, choice, and even power. …

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We are outraged by the murders of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, and Ahmaud Arbery. We grieve for them and the many, many others before them who lost their lives to police brutality and racial injustice.

We know these are not isolated incidents; they are part of a larger system of institutionalized racism, structural violence, and dominant groups abusing and misusing power to hold onto their own status.

White supremacy has brought us to this current moment, where Black people are 2.5x more likely to be killed by police (Statista), with a Black person killed every two to three days —…

In Honor of Mental Health Month

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I graduated from the Diversity Management Executive Leadership Program at Georgetown in February of 2020. My biggest lesson from the program was that diversity, equity, and inclusion work is emotional work.

As a practitioner, I knew this intuitively, but I never named it, which meant that I did little to rebound and recover after long days and difficult conversations.

On the last day of my program, our facilitators shared postcards with us and invited us to write a letter to our future selves with reminders and messages from the program. …

A step-by-step process for uncertain times

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In my work as a coach, consultant, and facilitator, I am often indirectly asked to take on the role of psychotherapist. Work and life are connected, and mental health absolutely shows up in professional settings, no matter how strongly individuals try to keep to work-life balance.

While I am a big proponent of trauma-informed leadership as a concept and will bring its approaches into my own, I have also learned to set clear boundaries with clients around what I can and cannot do for them. …

Alida Miranda-Wolff

Teaching Love. Scaling Empathy. Founder & CEO of Ethos Talent. Executive Director of Embolden & Co. Program Director for 1871’s WIC Accelerator.

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